Sunday, October 2, 2016

Live the Life You Want

“May your choices reflect your hopes not your fears.” - Nelson Mandela
“The man who moves a mountain begins by carrying away small stones.” - Confucius

Achieving the results you seek will be our main objective. Through a collaborative process, we will work together to meet your objectives and create positive changes in your life. We will start by identifying what gives your life meaning, addressing obstacles that get in the way of success, and setting achievable goals. As you strive to reach your goals, I will continue to offer support and strategies to overcome challenges and attain desired outcomes.

My goal is to help you enjoy life. Using proven methods from both psychotherapy and coaching, we can work together to help you manage problems and lead the life that you want to live. Sustainable happiness comes from a combination of factors, only one of which is a positive mood.  Achieving long lasting fulfillment means feeling engaged in our lives, experiencing positive relationships, having a sense of meaning, and feeling a sense of accomplishment.  

Emotions such as fear, shame, and anxiety are part of the human condition. Although these emotions feel unpleasant, at times they are informative, purposeful, and energizing. We will not rid ourselves of these emotions, but can diffuse the negative impact that they have on us by using approaches that have been proven to work. This process of acceptance helps us to problem-solve and focus on the things that can change.

Making change can be difficult and requires a level of interest, commitment, and the belief that change is possible. This is where many of us get blocked. Understanding the way we think and the impact of those beliefs empowers us to move forward towards the life we want to create.  Therapy is a place where we tune in to ourselves, including the inner dialogue running in our minds. Through this process we gain greater awareness of our patterns of thinking and behavior that leads to a greater sense of personal control.  Using evidence based principles, therapy teaches effective coping skills for tolerating distress, offers alternative interpretations of one’s experiences, and shows us how to turn ideas into action. Instead of waiting for external circumstances to improve, we learn to  recognize our ability to create positive changes from within.

"You can't stop the waves but you can learn to surf." - Jon Kabat Zinn